small disclaimer: please, to whomever reads this post, please feel free to express yourself in the comments. I like learning new stuff and hearing different opinions. (I’m assuming we’re all adults here and know how to give opinions without being jerks about it.)
And yes. I know. I fucked up.
Well, since I was raised in a (very) religious family, I’ll quickly explain what my mother, grandmother, grandfather, aunts, uncles (…) told me:
“The woman he marries must be a virgin” Leviticus 21:13
Oh, you wanted more Bible verses given to me by my family? Hahah, nope. That was it. That was the only line that they told me. They also said “your body is a temple. Don’t let anyone ruin it”.
And yes, of course there are many other verses that talk about promiscuity and sexual immorality, but hey. Those are quite ambiguous terms… Which I will discuss some other day, or I will probably never get to the point of this blog post. (Got serious issues with getting to the point).
Just an FYI
According to Oxford’s dictionary:
1 Having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships.
2 Demonstrating or implying an unselective approach; indiscriminate or casual.
2.1 Consisting of a wide range of different things.>>
1 The state or quality or being immoral. Wickedness.>>
Moving Forward (Fucking finally)
I was told plenty of times that if I ever let a guy touch me before marriage, I’d lose my value as a woman… and maybe even as a person…That I’d never get in heaven because that would make me a whore.
As I started to grow up, it seemed more as… the other way around. Like, if no-one wanted to be with me because I was this “pure” girl.
Well… Today a bought a pregnancy test.
I lost my virginity with my current boyfriend, 3 years ago. It was awkward -for both of us. Then it became great.
Let me emphasize it:
We’ve done it. In many places. Some that at the moment seemed as the best idea ever, and now it’s a bit embarrassing to remember.
We’ve done it, with and without my period…
And yes, with and without… uhm… you know… condoms.
Here’s a few links explaining our… not very correct… methods.
- Planned Parenthood
- Bed Sider
- Kids Health
Always. wear. contraception.
Don’t be immature pieces of shit that think that are inmune to getting STD’s or pregnant.
THINK about the possible consequences.
When we did those idiot methods, we didn’t get very nervous when I had small delays (my period wasn’t yet “stable”, and… we we´re –are– morons). So, I literally overdosed myself with vitamin C, and shoved my vagina with herbs to induce my period. (I’m sure it worked because of something called FUCKING LUCK).
A month ago, we had unprotected sex (surprise, surprise), and then waited for my perioud to come (now it’s more “stable”)… Two days delayed, three… four…
Seven… we didn’t tell anyone.
Luckily, he was calm. He said that whatever happened, we’d be in it together.
We got a pregnancy test.
Two weeks, three weeks… Four… Still no period.
Fuck, fuck, fuuuck, fuck.
I didn’t tell him. I didn’t want to freak him out.
Mom… Uhm, yeah, hi?
I just got another pregnancy test. I’m scared…
Her first question: –WHAT DO YOU MEAN “ANOTHER”?!?!
Second question: –How did it go? Do you want me to come and get you?
No mom, I’m still working. Thanks. Love you.
I grabbed my phone, sent my boy a message…
“My period never came after the day we got the test done. I just had myself another one… Just wanted you to know that there is a slight possibility I have something wrong in my ovaries… We need to start being responsible and buy condoms. Like, for real.”
Dudes. Always wear a condom. Always make sure that you have a condom. WEAR A CONDOM. Get INFORMED by what being an idiot can do to you and your partner.
Girls… it is true that our bodies are temples. TAKE CARE OF IT for heaven’s sake.